The Art of Generous Listening
Presenters: Marlene & Bob Neufeld
Talk Nice! Listen Well! and don’t be scare to say it all. For individuals, couples, friends & families.
Two people seeking to build a life together face a vast array of challenges and difficulties. Many people are frustrated in their relationships. Partners who often love each other do not know how to handle the inevitable couple tensions and conflicts. more…
Communication is the life blood in the creating, maintaining and growth of couple relationships. Communication is that circulation within the couple relationship that brings necessary oxygen. nutrients, healing medication, and love to the development of a couple. As well, communication is that flow that eliminates poisons, wastes, and hurt so that a couple can live healthily. Without communication, a couple would fall into silence, wither away and die.
More importantly, conversation fulfills one of our most important emotional needs, the need to know and be known. Please talk: I want to know you. Please listen: I want you to know me. Communication is more than a sharing of information; it is the way people reach out and touch each other the most. Therefore, communication is very much a human, symbolic connecting, a social affair and the sharing ourselves with others. Intimate communication is, at its core, the intent to love.
Communication is, at the same time, a learned behaviour, a basic life skill, and an art form. Communication is learned; it has a family of origin history, and we have had years of practice communicating as we had learned within our family of origin, be that for better or worse. We each have our communication styles and our idiosyncracies today. Communication is so common that we all think we know what we are doing and we are convinced that we know how to communicate. Too often we think that communication comes naturally. After all, we have been doing it since the day we were born. At the same time, it is probably one of the main reasons cited for couple breakdown and a premier area of concentration and skills practiced in therapy. Yet, good communication is an art form, and as such, there are prescriptions to its implementation and mastery to the steps of its dance.